Tuesday, 15 November 2016

I Am Her Mother

Hey dolls,

As I'm sure some of you are aware I had a bit of backlash and negativity this weekend over pumping my breast milk after a night out. I did my calculations and left it 9 and a half hours before pumping but some people had to have their say. And then to be removed from a support group for a complete mistake was the icing on the cake. I decided to take a short break from snapchat to have some head space but don't worry, by the time you read this I am probably back snapping away.

 I don't want to keep addressing it but I just felt I had to come here and thank all of my amazing followers. I'm blown away by the amount of support I've received over the last 24 hours. My phone hasn't stopped and my inbox is filled with hundreds of emails from you all. I don't know how I will get around to reading them but I will and I'm sorry if you don't get a reply but just know I appreciate each and every one of you.

Like the titles says, I am her mother and since becoming a mother 8 weeks ago I've had an overwhelming need to protect her. As a first time Mam I'm learning with each day and that is what parenthood is all about. Not one parent out there is perfect but we do the best by our kids. Since having Sienna and even while I was pregnant I had so many people tell me to take everyones advice with a pinch of salt and that people will give you advice and criticism whether you like it or not. What I have learned in the last 8 weeks is to take each day as it comes, enjoy each smile and goo and to just go with my gut. I haven't read the "manual" but from the moment she was born my mothering instinct kicked it. I know for a lot of people they find it so difficult in the beginning and that is so normal. It is a life changing experience. Birth alone takes weeks to get over, especially if you were like me and had any sort of traumatising experience.

What I am trying to get at here is each persons experience is different, each child, each baby and each family is different. No one has the right to pass comment, judgment or criticise you for how you do things. If you are the type of person that does pass comment or feels the need to direct negativity towards others then I encourage you to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself why. What benefit is there in being negative to others, does it make you happy? Does it benefit the other person? Does it make life easier? No, no it doesn't. So here is my two cents, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything. Take a look at your own life and see how you can change your negative thoughts into positives ones and be a happier person.

When it comes to being a mother, father, stepmother, stepfather, single parent or whatever situation you find yourself in, know that what you are doing is the best for your child. Don't listen to what people have to say, never second guess yourself and always go with your gut!!!!

I have just set up a Facebook support group for ANYONE that whats to join. You won't be judged, you will only be given support, love & encouragement. Tell your friend if they need a safe place to look for advice or share their stories they can join the community too. The group is called Nothing But Support.

Thanks again to all of you, I honestly have the most supportive bunch of followers 

Love Grace xox




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  1. Well said grace, my baby boy was 8 months yesterday. Jack has changed my life for the better. We love watching your snaps together everyday. Your an amazing mother x

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  2. Absolutely love it grace.joined the group myself well done for Turing a negative into a positive �� your doing an amazing job
    Sonya �� mummy to 8 and 4 year old and 6months pregnant on 3rd

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  3. 😍😍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️

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  4. So happy you have seen through those nasty people for what they are and that you are back doing what you do, being the most down to earth and normal blogger ever! �� Absolutely love following you and think you are so fantastic as a new mom to little Sienna! Use all your thinking time and energy for you, Sienna and your loved ones ! Hugs and kisses ��

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  5. Your doing a fantastic job .I myself am a mother to four and still learning .

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  6. Grace it was terrible that you got such a nasty comment on your instagram that it led to you dumping perfectly good milk down the sink. I really felt for you when I saw that and shame on that person who led you to believe your milk was bad they clearly hadn't a clue what they were talking about. However I don't think it's fair to mislead your followers regarding your temporary removal from that facebook group for breaching the privacy policy you agreed to before being added to the group. The group never made any judgement towards you and all the comments about you were positive and supportive. Because of the breach in privacy admin have been inundated with trolls while admin are trying to deal with this real women are missing out on valuable breastfeeding support.

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    1. Unnecessary for you to come on here and point the finger of blame at Grace. She was very clear in her snaps that the group was supportive and positive and so wanted to promote it to her followers yet the outcome was just more negativity and blame!!

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    2. She is not being clear at all people seem to think the group was nasty to her when it wasn't

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    3. There were a lot of members of that group that were very harsh at Grace. Which made me leave the group myself with some awful women being part of it.

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    4. To kick a new and vulnerable mother out of a "support group" kind of goes against the whole idea of a support group don't you think? I think that's the bit was nasty. She made a mistake and said she apologised to the admin but was still removed. That's not support!!

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    5. she clearly stated in her snapchat that she was removed because she shared the group on her snap story, she did say she got nasty comments but never said it was from the group. but yes there was some nasty comments towards her on that group and i have since left it because of them.

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    6. She wasn't kicked out though. Admin pm her and asked her to read and agree to the privacy policy again she was removed temporarily until she was happy to agree with the policy and she decided not to and posted on snap chat saying she was kicked out. This wasn't true. There had been over 400 requests to join the group admin have a total nightmare to deal with. There are vulnerable mothers in the group too imagine a troll getting into group and sharing very private info about a vulnerable post partum mother

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    7. There are 11k member in that group! If privacy is there number 1 priority then why add 11 thousand people?

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    8. There are 11k members, but they are all there for the same reason - breastfeeding support. Admin have been very careful to make sure trolls don't get into the group. Grace, I really think you need to state that you were not 'kicked out' of that group and that the group was supportive of you. Some people will take any opportunity to bash a breastfeeding mammy and because you say you were kicked out, a lot of people are commending that group and that is completely unfair.

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    9. Some people might have been supportive but obviously there was some who weren't.. she shared it so people breastfeeding could get support too! If the group is so private stop trolling Grace on her blog!

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    10. Not being funny but with 11,000 members privacy is out the window and as far as admin being very careful about not letting trolls join, how have you done this? I myself joined a couple of weeks back, very easily. How were you to know who I was??

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    11. O my God your unbelievable! Grace was very clear in saying she had very supportive mgs in the group. I think if you take a step back and really think about it. You have a new mother learning like all the rest of us one day at a time feeling down about nasty comments the right thing to do would be show support not ask her to read a rule book... Did it occur to you that within the 400 requests to join that there may have been a mother really struggling that needed advice or support rather than moaning about 400 requests.. Possibly 400 more people to help support or offer good advice to a member. I really think it's a shame the page has truly let it's members down. I think you just need to own it rather then come up with silly excuses.

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    12. Anonymous- you're obviously the admin! Why not post using your name?? No- because its easier to be anonymous and take the tiem to come onto Grace's post & comment! Seriously, GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!

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  7. Grace you're a fantastic mother. I Love watching your snaps because it doesn't make me feel so alone.As a mother myself to a 4 year old beautiful girl. I still get people passing negative comments on my mothering and sometimes it puts me down for days. Thinking am I doing something wrong? Am I a bad mother? Then I look at how smart, beautiful and happy my child is. I know in my gut I am a good mother. Don't get wrong I'm still learning 4 years on but I have learned to go by what I think is right at the end of the day. I AM HER MOTHER.I KNOW BEST. Sorry for rambling just wanted you know that you're not alone and you're a great mother and person. Wishing you well ☺

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  8. Well done grace. Don't let negative comments from judgemental people get you down. As you say "you are her mother" and YOU do know best. I have a 2 year old wee girl and due another baby in 3 weeks.being a mammy is one of the most difficult jobs but we learn as we go, everyday there is something new. You are doing a fantastic job at being Siennas mum as is Kips as her dad. We are missing your snaps loads already. Come back soon x x x

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  9. You are doing great grace sienna is such a happy healthy baby ❤️ She has loads of love from you chris and all your family and friends and thats all you need anyone's negative toughts is not needed .. YOUR her mum YOU know her best... We all love you and your snaps blogs posts etc �� Head high girl your such an inspiring woman ❤️❤️

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  10. You keep doing you Grace! I love your snaps - watched all the way through my pregnancy ( twin girls aged 6 months) you are just like any of us mothers and that's what so refreshing, you aren't pretending to be perfect and you share your life so honestly. Looking forward to you snapping again soon.

    Lisa from Liverpool mummy to Isla Hope & Orla Faith 6 months old xxxx

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  11. Wow well said Grace. Well done xx

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  12. It really made me sad to think that someone would go out of their way to critisise a new mother. I don't have any children myself but I do know that as it is your child you have the natural instinct of what is and isn't best for her. So glad to see you making something better of people's nasty comments. I was lost with no snaps of you and baby sienna yesterday x

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  13. Grace you are doing amazing! I have a little boy 13months and boy was it hard. You always get the no it alls stickig there nose in.. those who claim to have the perfect children and its there way or no way.. ive had my fair share of it and it does get to u! But as your post days u are her mother u no best no one else! Ya its ok to at times to listen to others on certain issues (my boy suffered from reflux) and believe me i welcomed suggestions. But others go to far.let them off and dont feel the need to responed for every ine bad comments you have a million postives! So keep doing what your doing fair play its not bloody easy and u and chris are doing a great job ������

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  14. Here Here Grace!!! Well done hun, sending all our love from Meaghers xxxx

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  15. Grace, you are doing the best job ever I am a first time mother too, my little girl is 4 months new and I have been following you on snapchat since Sienna was born and I love it! I watch you in such awe that you can go to event or meetings and have yourself and baby ready and I am still finding it difficult to manage to get dressed and out the door before lunch time, Lol! Keep going Grace! Only you know what's best for your baby!! X

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  16. Grace, I have always admired the honesty of your posts and snaps. Which is why it's upsetting to see you continuously lie about being kicked out of a group for a "mistake". Before you joined you were asked to agree to the policy and not share anything about the group. You agreed. 24 hours later you breached the privacy of the group. The fact that you share your life doesn't give you permission to breach the privacy of the group. The group has been inundated with requests to join as a direct result of you doing exactly what you agreed not to do. And you continue to cause damage my lying. You were removed temporarily and told you could rejoin when you agreed to follow group policy. You chose not to. Please stop lying about this.
    You're doing a great job as a mother, you don't need to play the victim to get people's support.

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    1. Well said

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    2. Not only that but the (now deleted) screenshot contained someones comment with their name and facebook profile picture.
      This whole thing has blown up ridiculously. It was one not rude or abusive comment, not a barrage of abuse as youre making out. Why not just ignore or reply as you did above which was perfectly reasonable?

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    3. Can ye not just move on? The girl made an honest mistake. Get over it! What is the point in having so called "support group" that no one can know about? I'm sure there are plenty of mothers out there looking for support. Such unbelievably nasty people out there. Drop it, move on & leave the girl alone!

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    4. People can know about it. But it's one thing telling one pregnant women or a new mother about the group via pm or in person and total other telling thousands on strangers on a social media platform. She made a mistake yes but instead of dealing with it privately with admin and agree to the privacy in future she decided to blow it out of proportion on social media

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    5. As long as she continues to lie about it, she continues to damage the group. Would you just "move on" if someone persistently lied about something you care about. She has the platform to set the record straight yet she continues to play the victim.

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    6. She's not playing the victim, she has no need to. I understood everything she said yesterday & never got the impression that she was being forced to do anything. This morning, she is repeatedly being called a liar and being accused of inciting trolls from members of the Support group she was asked to leave. Grace never said anything as nasty as you are saying to her. Take a good long look at the "support" you are showing a new mother, I for one certainly would not want to join you're so called group. Stop harassing her, she a young mother and doesn't need that.

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    7. Well I'm just glad we don't all need to rely on the likes of these secret fb groups for support. Becoming a new mother is tough, it is difficult to ask for help... this can be so much easier when you have a kind, open and friendly support network. Reflecting on some of the above comments, it is very clear that this is far from the case in the 'MI6' support group.

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    8. Jez aren't ye a wonderful support group..... going onto someones beautiful blog and calling them a lier. How supportive....and doing it anonymously.... brilliant. If you want to defend your amazing secret group of supportive ladies at least identify yourselves.....trolls....

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    9. I don't think that calling anyone a liar is helpful in any way and the reaction of the people representing the group here isn't doing much to improve how the group is being perceived. Personally speaking, and I'm sure many people are the same - I don't tend to read terms & conditions in detail before accepting them (even though I know I should know better) so it would be easy to make a mistake such as Grace has by sharing the details.
      As to the being kicked out part, if I could no longer access a group then yes, my initial instinct would be that I had been kicked out and was no longer welcome. Is she really likely to want to re-join after what has happened and the reaction of the group?
      Grace was simply trying to help out new mothers and irrespective of mistakes she shouldn't be vilified for doing so.

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    10. What kind of "support" group has to keep itself secret. It has 11k members, I don't see the problem at all with Grace sharing it. What a silly reason to block her access. If you want to keep things private then here's a suggestion- don't put those things on the internet. How did all the other members find the group?! If anyone is found to be trolling in the group then yes by all means delete them but I don't get the big deal about her letting people know the group existed.

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    11. If you listened to graces snapchat she said she had been blocked from the group for publicly sharing and ....is that not what tour saying happened !leave the girl alone for God sake she thought she was doing good to many self righteous women out there

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  17. Ur an amazing mum Grace love what ur doing so honest, after two babies I still haven't got back to my "normal" shape but since I have started watching you over a year ago nw I hav found out that my "normal" is me nw and am so happy u hav motivated me in so many ways and am so happy for yourself and Chris and ur wee family, I've seen so many ppl tell u it's easier said than done to ignore the trolls and negative ppl and there 100% rite it is easier said than done but u are so strong a fantastic mam and from what I can see from the small piece of ur life that u share an amazing person but most of all ur jus like us "normal" xxx

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  18. Well said grace, myself & my 6mo daughter love watching your snaps!! You actually get me through the hard days. Keep it up girl & screw those negative nellys x x :-)

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  19. So well said Grace.Enjoy your beautiful baby,you're doing a brilliant job x

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  20. Well done grace x

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  21. 😘❤️️❤️️👏👏 And that is how it's done. Turn a positive into a negative and rise above all the haters & trolls. Kill them with kindness Grace & don't let them upset you or spoil your moments with Sienna. Looking forward to your return to SC & see Sienna, Anne, Kips & Sasha. Hopefully by this happening to you it will raise more awareness on breastfeeding for new mums and the difficulties you may face in this cruel society. Xx ❤️️❤️️ Sylvia

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  22. Love this Grace, stay strong ❤️❤️

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  23. Best advice I was given was the same, listen to what peoples advice is but you don't need to follow it!
    Everyone and their mother seem to think they have a right to tell you what to do but as you said you are sienna's man and you know what is best.
    From watching your snaps and reading your blog it's clear to see you are obsessed with your gorgeous little lady and doing a fantastic job, we're all winging it!
    I've a 3.5 year old and expecting our second and still I don't know every everything and still question things I do regarding my son. It's natural instinct to protect and want the best. If women banded together instead of tearing each other down imagine what we could achieve!
    Keep doing what you're doing, you are amazing as is every mother xxx

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  24. You are doing a great job...and you know what's best xxx

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  25. You are doing a great job...and you know what's best xxx

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  26. Well done grace xx u are a great mam to sienna �� I have a 6 month old baby boy. First time mam aswell. We always look at your snaps together n he does have the biggest smile for you�� keep doing what your doing xxx we can't wait to look at your snaps again ��

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  27. Grace please give your followers the full facts about what happened. You blatantly did not adhere to the groups policy. The admin have a very difficult job on their hands.
    I would be lost without that group as a young mother who receives ZERO support from ANYONE. I've found motherhood to be a very lonesome experience, that group has been a godsend to me, please don't speak Ill of it- I would not be still here without it. Best of luck with your new support group and for the future.

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    1. Can you please stop trying to deface this beautiful blog. Ye should be ashamed of yourselves

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    2. To all Bf group members seeking clarification on what was said: Grow up. You're a parent and this is not the playground. A group that has thousands of members isn't private. How dare you point the finger at a young woman trying her best. You should be ashamed of yourself and pray that your child does not follow your example. "Admin have A very difficult job on their hands"-no. All they need to do is deny any requests for a period of time. Grow up, this interrogation and finger pointing is embarrassing. You are a parent. An adult. A bully. Is this the support you offer? A lynch mob when someone makes a mistake? You're all disgusting.

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    3. Admin can accept 11 thousand members, but they get 400 requests and suddenly it's too much? If you weren't willing to sift through requests, then have the group open. If you want it private and protected from trolls, you're putting that extra work on yourself, regardless of how people hear of the group it was still your choice to keep it private and elite, so it's your responsibility to do so and nobody else's.

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  28. I actually teared up reading this. Being a first time mother is the hardest thing I have ever done but also the most rewarding. I suffer with terrible anxiety and yes it did get worse when I became a mother. You worry almost every day if you are doing the right thing by your child and then to have people commenting negatively would make you sick to your stomach but you hit the nail on the head grace. It's them who should be looking in the mirror and evaluating their own life. I'd like to say I think you are doing such an amazing job. Breast feeding is hard work I only managed it for a few weeks so well done for getting this far . Sienna is an absolute credit to you both and I think your a wonderful person inside and out. I will be joining your fb group. And please know how amazing you are as a mother and a person and don't let anyone bring you down xxx

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  29. I have to agree with the posters above who have asked you to please be more clear & to stop suggesting you were kicked out. You are doing a great job as a first time Mum and I'm so happy you're bf'ing journey is going well. You asked to join a private closed group. You were told of the rules & asked did you agree which you did. This was specifically important as you are such a social media personality. You then breached the privacy of the whole group and posted another mothers name & photo. That is totally unacceptable. There are many vulnerable mothers in the group who rely on its privacy to come forward and seek support. You may not realise but a lot of mothers do not want anything about their families to be seen on social media and the group promises them a safe private space. You jeprodised their safe place. I understand you apologised to an admin/admins however it is really quite unfair not to clarify to your followers that it was a temporary removal due to your own mistake, not because anyone wanted to upset you.
    I think you are doing great work to normalised bf'ing. Please keep it up. I wish you nothing but happiness for your little family. X

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  30. Miss your snaps Grace! Your a fab Mum, please don't let 1 person get you down, who are they to judge you!! Mama knows best, look forward to your snaps again soon xx

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  31. im a mum of 3 kids and have bipolar dont let people judge u us mums make mistake all the time it dosent mean we have to be judged by wat we do der no such thing at being the perfect mum we only learn as each day comes chin up u are u and dont let people let u down bc we are human at the end of the day

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  32. Well done Grace! You are doing an amazing job. No doubt that raising a child is hard work but the love they bring is beyond words! Keep doing what your doing! Your inspiring and supporting so many people out there! Well done xx

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  33. I so admire u Grace and for a first time mum u are doing fantastic. I lasted only a month breastfeeding. I am a mum to four ranging from 18 to 11. Delighted u back Snapchatting. Have to say u make it look so easy being a first time mum and u should be very proud of yourself. U have moved house which is a stressful thing to do in normal circumstances. U are very lucky having Kips and the support of ur mum and sisters. Stay strong xxx

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  34. well said grace your doing a great job with baby sienna. nobody else knows your baby only you. don't let negativity get you down! can't wait till your back snapping because I love watching you xxx

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  35. Please come back snapping Grace, we all love you and enjoy your snaps so much. Whoever made those comments about u are only jealous bit*hs and keyboard warriors and aren't worth sharing the air that you and your lovely family breathe xxx

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  36. You are doing brilliantly with Sienna, I only managed to last 6 weeks breast feeding my little boy as he was too greedy and my milk wasn't coming in quick enough!
    It's hard to stay strong when people want to put there 2 pence in I know I've been there �� But I've now learnt to let it go over my head and that I ME & ONLY ME know what's right for my children ❤️
    Stay strong and keep doing what your doing �� Xxxx

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  38. Just so you know you are an amazing mam to sienna and Chris is an amazing dad. You's couldn't be doing a better job. I'm expecting my first baby in September and I'm glued to your snaps cause they're showing me what I have to look forward to.. you're also helping me more than you know with all your advice, so keep up the good work!! Xx

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  39. I cannot believe the continuous comments calling Grace a liar from members of this Facebook group .She is a new mum experiencing all the highs and lows of looking after her beautiful new baby who appears to be a happy content thriving baby . Does it not go against the very principles of your 'support' group to continually post negative comments to her blog this morning . She admitted even before she posted your group the previous comment on her breast milk had upset her and she posted that link in total good faith that she was doing a good thing to support new mums like herself . She has been removed from your group so what more do you want to put her through ...
    Grace ,I'm 54 a mum of 3 who are adults now , I've been following you for a long time and as a mum of a gay son I can't wait for him to get married after watching your amazing loving family having a wonderful day at Mags wedding . You may have lots of new followers since Sienna's arrival and they may not be aware that your blog and snap chat have addressed so many important issues such as mental health and honest discussion on body image along with all the makeup and beauty info . So please don't let this bring you down or out of being so truthful and honest in a sea of fake 'perfect ' social media commentators x

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  40. Well said Grace. I am a mum to be for the first time and expecting my little bundle in just under 5 weeks. I love watching your snaps and following your journey. It's a massive inspiration to us all.

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  41. Isn't it possible admin would add someone that knows someone else in the group without knowing they didn't want anyone knowing they were in the group? Or does admin ask all 11k's permission to add someone first?! I doubt it! It's ridiculous that it's deemed a secret group with that many members. How do u know one of the members hasn't mentioned the group on another group which is basically the same thing! I'm sure there's been an influx of requests in the past. Surely admins can take on more admins to go through the back log? It's neither supportive not helpful to someone whose clearly upset at the way she's been treated to come on her an comment in such a negative way. I don't believe she has done anything wrong. It's wrong to keep at her like this. Give her a break! Hope ur ok grace

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  42. Grace, I sent you a Facebook message. Please accept

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  43. Well said grace i love watching your snaps and cant wait for you to return whrn you are ready lots of love sent your way head up darling xx

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  44. Grace I was so upset for you by what happened. I am an avid follower and am blown away by how genuine and down to earth you are. You offer support to so many women girls families etc. You are a true inspiration. Your beautiful smiling alert gorgeous and stimulated little lady is tribute to what a great mum you are. Don't doubt it and don't justify yourself-YOU ARE AMAZING

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  45. Keep up the good work grace your blog is amazing and so are you!!❤❤❤❤❤

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  46. WoW! Grace I have been following you for a few months now and I am blown away at how much of a caring mother you are! You are just you, you do not lie or sugar coat things for us and that is what I love about watching your snaps. I'm watching the real you! I don't believe you have done anything wrong. 11K members is not a secret group, and that's a fact. A secret group is on private and you cannot find it by searching.

    I am quite disgusted by how the Admin / Member's (we clearly know thats who you are) are coming on this page saying you're lying and to tell everyone the truth, even though you have been completely truthful in this whole situation. If there is one thing I know about you from watching your snaps is that you are no liar.

    If I ever am a breastfeeding mother I know I wont be joining a 'supportive' group that will call you a lair.

    Love you and your blog!!

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  47. Being a new mam along with breastfeeding for the first time is hard enough without listening to negativity off people. Its amazing your breastfeeding & trying to give your baby the best start in life, dont feel the need to justify yourself you do what you feel is right for your baby. My baby is 2 weeks older than Sienna & ive really enjoyed your snaps as I can relate so much to them! Ive learnt so much from you & got some great tips/advice off your snaps so I really hope your bk snapping soon coz ill miss them! You have given me & so many others support without even knowing it! So dont heed the haters! Your an amazing Mammy!

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  48. Hi Grace,Don't mind what other people are saying! I think you are doing brilliant with sienna and your absolutely stunning �� there only jealous because you have the perfect little family and the perfect little baby ������You are siennas mother you know best. You and no one else.. There not the child's parents.. I am soooo upset that you are taking a break from Snapchat. I watch you every day and it won't be the same,but I hope you have a lovely break and can't wait to have you back on Snapchat, soon I hope ���� spend some quality time with sienna, they grow up too fast ☺ (PS she is your twin, sorry chris) ���� you should be so so proud of her. She is coming on leaps and bounds from what I see.... She is the most stylish baby I've ever seen... I hope to see you back on s\c very soon and it won't be the same until your back...����❤️

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  49. Grace! I actually don'tknow how you deal with all of this BS. You are promoting breatfeeding (which is what agencies want) you are open about the challenges, you are open to support and yet you are being called awful names.

    These so called supportive women who are calling Grace a liar should hang their heads in shame.
    Anyone in that group could be taking screen shots... sharing peoples details.. laughing about you behind your back... but guess what... you can't prove it.

    A group with 11,000 members is not a private group. End of.

    Grace I work in this area and trust me you dont need these so called 'supportive' women judging you. Life is hard enough.
    Fair play for turning this into something positive. You are a breath of fresh air.

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  50. Grace you are doing an amazing job. I'm a mammy to a 16 year old and a 10 year old. I'm still learning every day at the toughest job in the world. Keep up the great work and please come back to Snapchat soon. We all miss you ❤

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  51. Grace you are doing amazing as with all new mums. A lot of new mums can of course relate to the judgement we all receive it. It's tough. Everyone is fighting their own battle Grace. You have claimed you were KICKED out because they didn't fall over in appreciation for the "shout out" you have gotten too used to receiving and shouting out or trying to influence to get more stuff etc etc. Sometimes groups or support just want to help its not so you plug the company they just want to help you as the normal everyday you. Again you are amazing and the comments on your breast milk feck that. Jesus at first you mentioned one person made a comment about the breast milk which then turned into loads of comments which was no such thing. Stop making a big deal out of everything if your taking a break please do be with your beautiful daughter and fantastic family. Don't go on about it over one comment and refusing to abide by privacy policy. You refused to abide by the rules so your suspension remained in place. If you can't handle scrutiny take yourself out of the limelight. I also want to say I'm a fan a big but I really dislike the victim card. I do not mean to sound harsh grace I just think your close family and friends are possibly tip toeing around you. Show emotion, cry take time out but please don't be trying to sell yourself whilst doing it.

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    1. Enough please with the criticism. If you have no support to give then please refrain. Toddling over here all indignant and bristling with righteousness is of no use or help to any of us. Be nasty somewhere else ...perhaps on your own social media site.
      Grace...keep on trucking. By the look of the passive aggressive "I'm supporting you but calling you a liar" posts you've been receiving, you're well out of it. Great idea to set up a real support group. Fair play!

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    2. Well another admin appears.... how harsh and disrespectful of you. By reading this beautiful blog the only possible negative comments can be posted are those from the admin of that "support" group....no one else could possibly take anything negative from that blog. At this point all I can see is a severe cases of bullying. It's either one admin posting these negative harassing comments or else they have roped in their side kicks. Please stop it. Please refrain. Ye should be deeply ashamed of yourselves. I'm embarrassed for yexample. Hope off now , back to your secret group of 11,000 and do what ye are supposed to do, Support women....not kick them while they are down...... this blog is graces work..... what if i walked into your job and told everyone how mush of a bully I thought you were. Enough is enough

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    4. Excellent response Georgina!!! Wish I had a way with words like you do.... Grace unfortunately it's only after becoming a parent to 3 lovely little ladies is when I have come across some seriously nasty attitudes/behaviours. I have breastfed all of them but as I only made it to 6mths on all of them my opinion and support is not welcome in the lovely "support" groups. That you have had the experience of. But going on what I've just read you have it all sussed. Enjoy your baby snuggles they go way to fast!!! but every chapter is as amazing as the one before :)

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  52. Omg the breast feeding brigade are out in force......I am disgusted by their behaviour. That group is not a "supportive" group at all, why anyone would want to be attached to that group baffles me. How dare you come on here and call Grace a liar, she was telling everyone how great ur group was, how supportive you all were, she had a lapse in judgement and probably for that split second forgot ur stupid privacy policy and now u r making her feel worse than she already does.
    You are all coming across as horrible bullies. The girl had a baby 8 weeks ago, suffers with anxiety and panic attacks and you lot think it's ok to do this to her. I suppose you are all perfect and have never made a mistake??? You should all be ashamed of yourselves and you have done yourselves no favours at all.

    Grace darling......u are amazing, u have helped me in so many ways, u are a fantastic ambassador for mental health. You are a fantastic mother and don't you dare let these bullies get to you xxx

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  53. Well said Grace. You are doing a great job with Sienna and she is such a happy baby you should be so proud. I struggled so much when I had my little boy thought and felt everyone was judging me. I was always putting pressure on myself to look good have a clean house have the perfect life but inside I was struggling so much. I felt if I asked for help people would see me as a failure. Don't let others rule your head. Don't let others negative remarks get to you. Stay strong your doing a great job.

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  54. Beautiful blog post grace your a great mother and an absolute inspiration missing your snaps ��

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  55. Grace you are doing great. A lot of people find it so difficult to breastfeed I know I did and could not continue due to absolute agony. I never heard you complain it's surreal. You should not need constant validation it was the same surrounding your labour. You have thousands of followers and some depend on you. You are dipping your toe in and out so that you are in the limelight that's what it seems. Either stop altogether or keep sharing your intimate thoughts and be open to some people's close minded opinions. Every single person on here has thrown stones at whilst in their glass houses no one is perfect.

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  56. When we were growing up my cousin fed her baby after a night out. We never thought of it! We all make silly mistakes but that's ok. Being a mam doesn't come with a handbook. I'm still learning 21 years later. Do your best, trust your own instinct- always and don't listen to any negativity. You will blink and your vary will be grown up so enjoy this precious time with positive people around you.

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  57. Is this person for real coming on here demanding Grace to tell her followers "the truth"...she breached the secret group rules....so childish..what's all the secrecy about???? And how did the other 11k members find out about this secret group? Through word of mouth in guessing...what if a woman that was a member of that group who has a different line of work to Grace told all her colleagues and friends about the group? Would she have been removed from the group too? No I doubt it!!!can't believe what I'm reading its so pathetic....secret group������...eh guess what?? Nothing is a secret once it's on the internet��. Grace you are better off out of that group of that's how you were treated for trying to help out other women. The whole thing is nonsense.

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  58. Ughhhhhhh Drama Drama Drama.... you're all as bad as the person who started this... honestly the negativity on this website and on these posts are crazy!! I don't even feel like I can leave my name or I'll get attacked next for speaking ill of the support group (I don't know anything about these groups) Ye all need to chill out and move on with your lives.. Grace seems cool and genuine but I don't think this is what she wanted ye guys to defend her honor LOL.. I pretty sure she said say something nice or nothing at all!

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  59. Well said mum to 3 girls 14, 10 & 5 tough job and learning every day and will continue to learn for years to come. Your doing a fantastic job I feel sorry for the small minded people who have done this to you. Rise above them and let them be. Looking forward to your snaps again but all in good time ❤❤

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  60. Wow what an amazing read!! So so true. Im also a first time mammy to a nearly 2 year old and to this day you will still have people making comments. "Why is he still taking a bottle going to bed." Why is he this why is he that and the best is "Oh well when my blah was 2 he had no bottles and no milk other then in this and that". I do feel like saying well thats yours and hes mine and hes happy and so am I. Your doing an amazing job girl keep going. KEEP THE HEAD HELD HIGH. Your doing a great job.❤❤

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  61. I never comment on anything like this because its just so childish but im going to have a rant about it... All of ye who are giving out about a simple mistake anyone could do is absolute joke.. do ye have anything else to do in your lives then sit there and be negative.. it was a simple mistake to make and ye are making it into such a big thing and hurting someone in the process of it all..ye are suppose to be parents why don't ye grow up and start acting like it.. nothing nice to say just sit there and say nothing least then ye dont spread all your negativity .. NEGATIVE NANCIES EVERYWHERE

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  62. Grace you're amazing! Have followed you for almost 2 years now and your honesty is what makes you my favourite blogger I almost feel like your one of my friends even though you've no idea who I am 😂 love watching your snaps and I'm so happy for you Chris and sienna ye are a perfect family 💜 I've never commented on anything you've done before but it actually pains me to see you upset ! Being in the public eye is tough people will always judge I think they forget there's a real person on the receiving end of the opinions they share..take time away from social media if you need to and don't worry about anyone else but keep the faith you know we love you 😘

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  63. Some people are arsewholes ! Leave the poor girl alone and let her look after her baby the way she wants to. I love your snaps and sienna is beautiful..u only have to look at her to see how well she AND YOU are doing. ! Being a mammy is hard �� especially when you have to deal with this crap !
    Concentrate on your own life and leave her alone. Dopes !

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  64. Whatever happened to looking for after one another, I am a mum of a six year old and find women are so self centred and negative.
    Grace sienna is only 8 weeks old, be kind ladies and look after one another xxx

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  65. Well done Grace. Even in the face of negativity you manage to take something positive from it ❤️ Xxx

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  66. Well said Grace, you are truly inspirational!!

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  67. That group Grace has set up is dangerous. No moderation, damaging "advice", people being attacked for trying to help. Support isn't blindly agreeing with every crazy thing someone does.

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    1. Please find a hobby...... how dare you. I suggest hanging a punch bag in your back garden....breast feeding secret support group alert*******

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    2. Jesus Christ.
      What kind of Disgusting human being can be this Bitter?

      You're doing incredible, Grace.
      Your Story and how it has all unfolded is Beautiful.
      Just carry on doing you

      R x

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  68. How can some one who has just had a baby go and give advice? If she had 3 kids then fair enough .don't post your life and every single bloody thing you do on the Internet and expect privacy and then get all smart saying that people are negative. Stop trying to be a celebraty mum .stop thinking you are like the kardashians stop expecting people to love you .do you not feel weird with all the strangers looking in on what you say or do al day every day? But everyone to their own.

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    1. Grace does not give advice on mothering. She shares her beautiful journey with her followers. How dare you tell her to stop doing anything. The Bullys on this thread are out in full force. Get a life.

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    2. What a revolting comment..... admin from bf secret page alert

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    3. I'm sorry but I'm totally fed up reading all this, 1 woman made a comment about the breast milk, it wasn't even that bad. But to be honest Grace has blown it all out of proportion. If she doesn't want something negative to be said to her then please don't put your whole life of social media. I know I wouldn't want my baby all over social media, something's should be kept private. By the way I'm not admin of any bf group I'm just a mammy who used to follow Grace but now i really think a lot of all this is just for symphony and get more followers!!

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    4. Exactly ! Well said. If you are going to put your dirty linen on the line expect comments. Why do you have to let every tom dick & Harry know every single thing about your babies's first kiss first nappy first blah blah... Then get in a strop over one comment and have a meltdown. Im glad this technology wasn't out when I had my 3 girls. Some of the comments of support are pretty creepy. Women with nothing better to do than have a good nosey. Must go now and put hubby's tea on.

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    5. "WEH WEH WEH STOP PUTTING STUFF ONLINE IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE BULLIED."

      Jesus Christ.

      What the F*ck is wrong with all of you?! What happened to Girl power and Supporting each other?!
      Some of the comments on here are absolutely disgusting.

      "Stop trying to be a celebrity(Correct spelling if you're interested?Probably not..) Mum"
      Why can't she be a celebrity mum? She can do whatever she wants.

      "If you are going to put your dirty linen on the line expect comments." - So you're saying that people should be attacked for being open and honest?
      And what a disgusting comment in the first place. "Dirty Linen" are you serious? It's Women like you two that give other women a bad name. Stop fighting eachother & Start supporting eachother. Jesus Christ.

      I have to say it's been such a fresh breath of air to watch you and see your story unfold. And to see how honest and open you have been about the whole thing is SO refreshing. You're an inspiration Grace, You truly are.

      R x

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  69. Hey Dolls .just like to say I love baby faces and absolutely adore gracey. She is my hero and I am obsessed with her perfect life. I love the way she has a page for her daughter.love the fact that everyone will see her life will roll out for the world to see. I think grace is a great roll model for all us sad people who have no life of our own. I sit all day looking at her snap chat. Don't know what I would do if she stopped the very interesting chat. My life would be over. And all them radio interviews I've got them recorded. So u go girl. So please support her in the future . Me and my six kids send our love from Darndale x

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  70. Grace, when watching your snapchat today I found it strange how you randomly started talking about infertility. Then you name dropped VHI's quiz into your speech and it made sense. You have #ad on your facebook but not on your snapchat story. I think this is really misleading. You should be putting #ad like other bloggers do on every platform that you are being paid to talk about something on. I have fertility issues and it does not sit well with me that you sat there (with a newborn baby on your lap) harping on about infertility just to make some extra money.

    Juat because you've had a baby doesn't make you an expert on these things. Especially since you clearly had no issues in this area. If you're going to talk about things that aren't makeup and be paid for them at least be transparent and #ad.

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    1. Yes I agree. Having trouble as well with fertility. Grace thinks she is an expert in every field. For godsake stop preaching about how great your life is. Enough already.

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  71. Well said Grace xx

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